Tips for More Effective Business Email – Guest Post by Jeanne Byrnes

Email has become the preferred means of communication for business, yet many people forget that it still is mail. And all emails are not created equal. Some are conversations between colleagues and can be very informal, where texting language can be used. But when an email is going outside of the company, especially for an initial contact, it should be treated as a letter, where grammar, spelling, and clarity count. Here are a few tips to help you write better and ensure that your messages is not only read, but understood:

1.  The Drafts folder is there…use it.
The biggest piece of advice I like to give clients regarding writing effective emails is: Don’t hit send; save important emails to drafts. Writing is a process (the topic of my next Effective Business Writing Tip) and is done through drafting and editing; something that’s easy to forget in these times of instant communication.

2.  Forget telling the whole story.
One of the most common mistakes people make in composing email is in the long paragraph that the reader has to get through before the message gets to the point. This is what I call the “running start,” where you need to warm-up your ideas before they solidify. You are, in effect, thinking it through in the body of the email, which is the job of pre-writing (can take the form of various forms of brainstorming techniques, including free-writing, which is part of Writing as a Process). Don’t forget to edit and eliminate the build-up story.

3.  Eliminate unnecessary words, too.
To accomplish this you might follow the advice of Mark Twain: “Substitute the word ‘damn’ every time you are inclined to write ‘very;’ your editor [boss] will delete it and the writing will be just as it should be.” The best way to accomplish this is to proceed to tip #4.

4.  Read it out loud
Read each and every business email out loud to yourself, stopping to ask, “Is that what I really mean? Does it sound natural? Is it redundant?” By hearing the message read, you can catch more typos than your eye can catch and you’ll know where you can eliminate extra and superfluous  words.

5.  Get to the point
Academic writing, the way most of us learned to write, moves from the general the specific (remember the ‘funnel’ or inverted triangle for essay writing?), but business writing is the opposite; picture an upright triangle. Be as specific as you can with your subject line and get right to your purpose in the body. Think about your reader here, and give her or him some credit (some readers may need fewer details than others). Consider: Is there an action you want, information you want to give, is a reply needed, or a conversation you want to open?  Start with your specific purpose and build outward, adding only needed details.

Stay tuned. I have more handy writing tips in this series, where I’ll give you tools and techniques for pre-writing, achieving clarity, remembering grammatical structures, choosing the active voice, and many more. For more information go to: http://www.self-expression.com/coaching-business-writing.shtml

Creating from the “Back of Your Head” as Suggested by JK Rowling

JK Rowling is celebrating 15 years of Harry Potter books this month. She sat down to an interview on Good Morning America August 27th to talk about how she crested her amazing characters. You can see that interview here or watch the video below.

Ms. Rowling said that her most beloved character, Professor Dumbledore, was probably written “from the back of her head.” he said things to Harry Potter that she did not know that she knew until she saw them written on the page.

It is her statement about creativity from the back of the head that intrigues me. I have a  strong intuition about the importance of creating from the  back of the head, not only for writing, but for speaking as well. When I meditate, I often get to levels of awareness that are experienced as spacious, meaning my understanding seems expansive. The thoughts that come through don’t seem to originate from my personality, but from a soul level.

I also notice this same kind of thought process occurs in my group speaking clients after I guide them into a deeper, more meditative state of grounding and presence before I ask them to speak. They often think they know what they are going to say before taking the center of attention.  But once in front of the group, something bigger, more expansive, more universal comes out of their mouths.  It seems that a higher aspect of their consciousness takes over and speaks through them.

I have often talked about becoming an instrument through which spirit can speak. when we prepare the body, mind and emotions with a state of presence, we often say things that are richer and more profound than we expected to say.  It just may be that we are then “speaking from the back of our heads!” Here is the interview with JK Rowling. Enjoy and celebrate the wisdom of Dumbledore!

JK Rowling on Good Morning America 8-27-13

Open Your Heart to Speak from your Heart at Weddings

Once in a while, I have the pleasure of working with someone who is giving a speech at a wedding. If any speech should come from the heart, it would be a wedding toast. Last week a delightful man, I’ll call him Daniel, came for help with giving the speech of his life at his daughter’s wedding.

Daniel was visibly anxious about this talk. While he had some great ideas on what to say, his main concern was that he would lose his composure during the speech. He was afraid to break down and cry. He is not the only client who has expressed this fear!

I wanted to soothe his fear if I could. I told him that it is acceptable to feel and express emotion at weddings and other such events where human beings are celebrating rites of passage like funerals, christenings, graduations etc. In fact, it is required to feel and express emotion. To hold back emotions would be inauthentic and would appear to be uncaring.

When speaking at a wedding, it is important to allow the heart to be touched. When the heart is touched, it causes emotional energy to flow up from the heart into the throat, so the voice naturally breaks and emotion pours through the sounds of the words. I encouraged Daniel to let his emotional energy be shared with his daughter, her groom and all who are present at the wedding.

Instead of trying to control emotion, I want my clients and myself to learn to we speak from our hearts and use the emotional energy to create genuine connection. It is such a lovely experience to share human emotion at significant life events! It is not a sign of weakness, but of tenderness and of the heart’s ability to feel love for others.

Happy Birthday Mr. President! With Love from Texas for Nelson Mandela

Today Nelson Mandela Nelson Mandela celebrates his 95th birthday. He is a South African anti-apartheid revolutionary who served as the first black President of South Africa from 1994 to 1999.

After serving more than twenty years in prison in South Africa, he served with love and compassion as the president. he showed the world how to lead with compassion and courage.

Below are two of my favorite quotes from President Mandela:

“Success in politics demands that you must take your people into confidence about your views and state them very clearly, very politely, very calmly, but nevertheless, state them openly.” – A quote from Nelson Mandela’s book, “Conversations With Myself”

“I have fought against white domination, and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society in which all persons live together in harmony and with equal opportunities. It is an ideal which I hope to live for and to achieve. But if needs be, it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die.” – Mandela speaking during his 1964 trial.

Speaking for Authentic Expression: Interview with Dr. Brene Brown

“Authenticity is a practice” says Dr. Brene Brown in a conversation with Oprah. You have to choose it every day.

This applies not only in one’s personal life, but in business as well. In business, authenticity generates authority. When we speak from our own inner authority, others sense our power. But it takes courage to speak from the inner self because it allows other to see you.

Choose to let yourself be seen. Whether speaking in groups, meetings or presentations, choosing to be authentic requires letting go of faking and of perfectionism.  Here is a little video clip where Brene shines as the voice for authentic expression. You go Brene!

Calming Stage Fright: Exercise helps Anxiety

Performing arts training, of necessity, includes methods to develop relaxation, concentration and presence. Years ago, in acting school,  I learned to do a voice and body exercise warm-up before auditioning or performing. While it did not completely get rid of my performance anxiety, it did help calm me. When I became a teacher of public speaking, it seems like a no-brainer to guide my speaking classes through a warm-up. Over time, I evolved a set of exercises I teach even now to all my speaking clients.

At the beginning of each group speaking class called Transform Stage Fright into Authentic Presence, we go through some exercises involving movement, breathing and meditation. Just like athletes who warm up before playing on the field or like dancers who warm up so they can express them selves fluidly on stage, my clients find that warm-up exercises help calm their anxiety. Clients grumble and laugh nervously when I first teach the warm-ups, but they soon experience how much more comfortable they feel to speak to the group after doing the warm-up series.

Science is catching up to artistic and spiritual wisdom in many areas of life. Lately scientists have discovered that exercise helps anxiety. And other activities like meditation do so as well. Imagine that!

CBS This Morning did a piece on how exercise helps anxiety on July 5, 2013. Dr. Holly Phillips shares that exercise both energizes and calms us. The video below is worth watching. It does not take a scientist to figure out that some kind of warm-up exercises prior to speaking can make a significant difference in the speaker’s comfort and confidence.

Ron Finley’s TED Talk on Guerilla Gardening in South Central LA

Ron Finley says, “Food is the problem and food is the solution.” He planted food forests all over LA as an act of guerilla activism. Food is his art. Food is a tool for transformation. Food is defiant.

Watch his TED Talk:

Ron proves that you don’t have to be a perfect speaker to be effective. Effectiveness is not about your performance skills, it is about what happens to your listeners as a result of who you are being with them.

He is powerful, he is present. Ron is authentic. Ron is being with his audience, as he is, with his regional accent, defiant attitude and pacing style. The audience loved him. They gave him a standing ovation! He deserved it.

Think actors don’t have fear of public speaking? How Katherine Heigl used her fear to speak from her heart!

People are often incredulous when I share my story about being trained an actress and yet having such fear of public speaking. But acting is a skill based on saying the words of a character, not usually your own words. In acting there is no need to reveal your own thinking, whereas in public speaking, you have to generate thoughts and speak them as yourself.

What actors do learn that is valuable to speaking is to stand in their bodies and feel their feelings in front of people! I saw a video recently sent around by a fellow speaking teacher that I want to share with you and comment on. This video is of the actress Katherine Heigl honoring Shirley MacLaine at an American Film Institute Life Achievement ceremony. You will see that Katherine is visibly and vocally nervous to speak in front of this group. Watch the video and then I will make some surprising comments.

What do you see when you watch this video? Do you see a beautiful woman who is nervous speaking before her group? Do you feel a sense of judgment towards her? Or do you feel compassion towards her? Can you see past her fear to the amazing act of courage she is expressing?

Here is what I see and notice and what I know for sure about Katherine Heigl.

1. She is authentic! She is committed to being who she authentically is in front of all those people. Amazing that she does not shut down her genuine thoughts and feelings! She does not pretend to be in control. Instead, she shares what is true for her in the moment.

2. What she is actually doing is standing in the rush of psycho-physical energy, high intensity feelings while she speaks. As she shares her thoughts and feelings of honoring Shirley MacLaine, she is consciously in touch with the energy that is flowing through her body. That internal energy is converting to power and passion and she radiates a presence that is palpable. You can’t take your eyes off of her because she is shining.

3. Here is what will happen for Katherine in the near future. She will never again feel the intensity of fear about speaking because she has taken the risk to be authentic and opened the flood of spiritual energy. Because she has been able to stay present for her feelings and share them genuinely in front of an important group, she had opened a channel for greater flow of spiritual energy in her body. It will not be scary in the future. She will have healed a big chunk of her fear!

If you would like to learn to transform your fear of speaking in a safe group rather than in front of important audiences, take a look at all we have to offer at www.self-expression.com .

Inspiration for a New Year!

As 2013 and the movie version of Les Miserables open, we can all use a little inspiration to remind us it is possible to fly and to spur us all on to new heights. No one did that better than Susan Boyle at her first audition of Britian’s Got Talent!

Her is a video of her amazing and deeply moving achievment. The fireworks in her eyes as she sings will light you up and the change on Simon Cowell’s face will make you howl with glee that he SO misjudged her. I hope you enjoy that as much as I do!

Speak Up, Speak Out and Speak About to Make a Difference in the World

The tragic news of our 2012 Holiday Season is the sad deaths of children and teachers at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut. Much has been said and reported; and I don’t have anything to offer that can help the situation. My heart hurts for those families, friends and neighbors who are grieving this season. I send them prayers and healing energies that they find peace.

I also grieve for our nation which is experiencing so much of this senseless violence. What seems important is that each person speak up, speak out and speak about their thoughts and feelings. We must not remain silent about this issue that is troubling our nation. The more people speak up, the more conversation stimulates changes that are needed.

My article today is intended to inspire you to take up a different kind of “arms.” No, I don’t mean take up guns, I mean find a creative way to speak up, out and about your concerns. Write your congressman, write to a newspaper, write a story or post a video on YouTube. Express yourself! Yours may be the one voice that makes the difference.

In 1850, also in Connecticut, Harriet Beecher Stowe, the daughter of fiery minister Lyman Beecher was appalled at slavery in the US at the height of the abolitionist furor over a new Fugitive Slave Law that gave bounty hunters the right to hunt down runaway slaves even in northern states. Her sister-in-law, Katy, wrote Harriet a letter urging her to “write something that would make this whole nation feel what an accursed thing slavery is.” Harriet, an unknown and unpublished author, upon reading Katy’s letter declared, “I will write something!” Harriet knew she had to speak out.

Harriet wrote Uncle Tom’s Cabin which portrayed slavery in heartbreakingly human terms. Not only did her story become the first American novel to sell a million copies, but it sparked the hearts and minds of Americans and ignited the American Civil War. In 1862, President Lincoln, upon meeting Harriet at the White House was quoted as saying, “So this is the little lady who wrote the book that made this great war.”

I am sure that Harriet Beecher Stowe could not have imagined having sparked a war over slavery when she wrote Uncle Tom’s Cabin, but her’s was the one voice that made a difference and helped change the course of American history.

Reader’s Digest said that “Uncle Tom’s Cabin became regarded as the greatest of American propaganda novels – a remarkable achievement, considering that Harriet had never before published a work of fiction and was unknown in the world of literature.”
Let us all take a lesson from Harriet Beecher Stowe, the house wife and mother of five children who wrote a story that expressed her disgust for slavery.

What will you speak up, speak out or speak about?